What is it about tears that we are afraid of? They have been part of human expression since the beginning. Check out these quotes that honor our tears. “I will not say, do not weep, for not all tears are an evil.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien “But there was no need to be ashamed of tears. For tears bore witness that a man had the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer.” – Victor Frankl “Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.” – José N. Harris “If I can see pain in your eyes, then share with me your tears.” – Santosh Kalwar “Tears are the silent language of grief.” – Voltaire “There is a sacredness in tears.” – Washington Irving “Tears are words that need to be written.” – Paulo Coelho “Let me come in where you are weeping, friend, and let me take your hand.” – Grace Noll Crowell “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” – Psalm 30:5 “Let your tears come. Let them water your soul.” – Eileen Mayhew “It is such a secret place, the land of tears.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
“If we could see the miracle of a single flower clearly, our whole life would change.” – Unknown This picture was taken in our front yard in Ellie’s garden. There is but one pink flower. There was but one beautiful Ellie. For those that don’t know, Ellie’s favorite color was pink.
“Human beings know instinctively that loss of opportunity is acutely painful. Why, across cultures, is the death of a child so tragic? Because that child never had the opportunity to flourish in all the ways a human flourishes – to marvel at the world’s natural wonders; to experience the joy of perfecting a craft, a sport, an education; to fall in love and dance the night away; to read a novel that shakes one’s soul; to be a father or mother, a friend, as source of wisdom for the next generation. But what is lost when that life is cut short?” – William McDonough and Michael Braungart (The Upcycle – pg. 41-42)
“Think of the joy a firework display brings. It has a tremendous burst of energy and color. It causes those viewing it to be overcome with “oohs” and “ahhs” as they watch from afar. The tremendously beautiful lights cause a spectacular feeling to erupt from your core being. There are people in our lives that are like that; they bring forth tremendous bursts of color and beauty into our lives, and then they are gone and stop without warning. After the firework display is over, we can hold onto their memory as the sky turns dark again, but we will always have that wonderful memory tucked away. And the capability of having a memory is a gift from God so we can always see the sparks in our mind.” -Ron Heitmann Ellie Sings Katy Perry’s Firework
“Not I or anyone else can travel the road for you. You must travel it for yourself.” ― Walt Whitman “Comfort comes from knowing that people have made the same journey. And solace comes from understanding how others have learned to sing again.” ― Helen Steiner Rice “It is not in the going down that we demonstrate resilience, it is in the getting up again.” ― Ingrid Poulson “And most of all, you were sure it would be impossible for you to function as a whole human being not buffeted by the waves of sorrow that swept over you in the early days of your tragedy. But you will. You will do all that and you will do more.” ― Harriet Schiff “Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.” ― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars
“If you know someone who has lost a child, and you’re afraid to mention them because you think you might make them sad by reminding them that they died–you’re not reminding them. They didn’t forget they died. What you’re reminding them of is that you remembered that they lived, and that is a great gift.” – Elizabeth Edwards Some thoughts from our friends “Remembering them in conversation truly is a gift. There is no such thing as a delete button in matters of the heart.” -TGH “It makes our angels smile when they hear their loved ones talk about them.” -KLW Message from a friend regarding this post “I want to thank you for posting this. My brother died Aug 26 1999 in a car crash. I have never called my mom on this day for fear of upsetting her. I called her tonight and tried as hard as I could to maintain my composure as I read this to her. Needless to say I could not but I finally was able to convey the whole message. It made my mom’s day to know that he was not forgotten and was remembered for his life. Thanks!” -JL