Ellie’s Way Care Plan
First of all, we are so sorry for your loss. We wish you had no reason to be here. But, as we found out ourselves, we don’t get to choose our life’s path. We are not prepared in any way for such circumstances and now is the time to organize, maximize, and deliver the goodwill within your community (family, friends, neighbors, and compassionate people you don’t even know). People want to help, but don’t know what to do. Families need help, but don’t know what they need.
Why do we want to help?
We lost our six-year-old daughter, Ellie, on January 20, 2012 in a tragic accident. Everyone wanted to help, but no one really knew what to do. We were in shock and had no idea what we needed then or over the course of the next year. Our life as we knew it was over, and we needed to learn what our new life looked like. It is our passion to help families in these difficult situations.
Have you identified a Support Director?
We recommend that you identify a Support Director as soon as possible. This person should be a trusted friend or family member that can take care of details, guard the door, answer the phone, help with planning services, and coordinate for you. This person should be in tune with your desires.
Support Website Template
We all handle things differently. We have different needs and preferences. While we have developed a plan that we think meets many of the needs you will face, feel free to customize the help you will receive.
We have developed a support website template to help organize, maximize, and deliver your communities goodwill to you. Through our experience, we learned that providing a single source point of information is critical for the community to avoid communication problems and inefficient flow of information. The sooner the support website is up and running, the more useful it will be.
There are a few things that can be very helpful. For example, purchasing an easy to remember domain name (such as www.EllieNigro.com), creating a YouCaring donation page, setting up a memorial Facebook page, and signing up for a Google account if you don’t already have one. We are happy to share a sample website template with you. It can be edited and implemented in any way that you desire.
There are many unexpected costs associated with these situations. Please identify a TRUSTED family member or close friend to be the Donation Sponsor as that person should set up the account and will be the recipient of the funds which should be transferred to you. We recommend www.YouCaring.com, but there are other websites available also.
Facebook Memorial Page
Memories are precious and something you will treasure. Facebook is a great way to record memories and let your community contribute thoughts. Please identify a TRUSTED family member or close friend to be the Facebook Sponsor as that person will set up the Facebook Memorial page. At some point, you will want to take over the admin control for the account.
Contact Us for Assistance/Feedback
Please contact us if you have any questions or feedback. The path of child loss is a long and difficult one that need not be walked alone.
Todd and Kristen Nigro
Ellie’s Way Links
“The time you took and to personalize the package with my son’s name was fantastic! It has been 8 months that my son has been gone, but as time goes on, it feels like it gets harder and your package came and renewed some faith in God and gives me some hope! Thank you so much for the time you put into this gift. GOD bless you! I’m so sorry for your own loss of your daughter.”
“I was taken back by how phenomenal this package was! You guys are truly amazing! Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
“I received my Ellie’s Way package today and I can’t thank you enough! Now I can wear my angel with me everywhere and show her to everyone I meet.”
"Got my care package from Ellie’s Way today including my beautiful necklace with my baby angel’s name and picture on the back! It put me in such good spirits and wanted to say thank you to all the volunteers. Thank you and God Bless!!”
“Receiving a care package from Ellie’s Way was a beautiful experience. It really brought me lots of joy and it’s wonderful to see how they honored my wonderful son.”
“Thank you so very much for this beautiful, meaningful website! I recently lost my brother to cancer (I am not a stranger to grief, but seem to have forgotten how painful it actually is), and was googling “grief”, hoping to find anything that would help ease my pain. And I stumbled upon your website, and just spent the last hour draped in comfort. Your words of wisdom have had such an impact. Thank you so very, very much. God bless you and your whole family as you make your way through your own grief, and God bless your beautiful Ellie! What a gift she is, and what a gift she just gave me!”
“Thank you guys so much for my care package! I cannot wait to dive in to the pamphlets and share some sticky notes! I love this idea! I also love the prompts for the journal. I’ve been told journaling helps so much, but I just never know where to start. And I can’t say enough how my heart was touched by the stone and the necklace. I love being able to hold his little image in my hand and/or look down and see his little face looking up at me. You guys are wonderful and amazing and I will remember you and sweet Ellie in my prayers each day.”
“I bought this as a Mothers Day gift to myself. I felt it was taking a huge step in my healing process. I love the necklace. It was heavy, just like my heart. It is simple but beautifully made with love and care. I needed it. It finalizes. I miss him dearly. I will cherish it, but not worship it or him. There is life beyond the grave. JESUS CHRIST the True Light by which we are saved. Thank God for Ellie’s Way and for all that they do in making it just a little bit easier.”
“God bless you for having the courage to help others in your time of sorrow. I received a package for my daughter and it is absolutely gorgeous. The reading material was a big help. Your kindness will help so many suffering this loss and her name will be remembered forever.”
“The necklace is ABSOLUTELY beautiful and made me cry! Thank you guys so much. I’ve gotten many compliments and because of them was able to tell my daughter’s story.”
“The care package was so thoughtful and perfect. I am so grateful to you.”
“The package was absolutely beautiful! I could feel the love that went into making this package pouring out of the box as I went through it! My most favorite item in the box is my necklace. I wear it everyday from the time I get up to the time I go to bed! I will cherish it for as long as I live! I can’t possibly thank you all enough for my care package!!"
“We received our order today of the care package. Thank you so very much. It is so welcomed and appreciated. I love the little extra touches of the necklace with the charm inside with my son’s picture and the little token also with his picture. I will take great comfort in listening to the CD and reading the many items included. You have no idea how this touches my soul. I know you share our loss, even though your’s is unique. The fact we have both lost our children is what brings us together. What a wonderful way to remember Ellie and help those in pain. Thank you again.”
“I just received my package, and I’m so touched and grateful for the thoughtfulness of the ones who thought of me. Thank you so much.”
“I wasn’t sure what to expect but when I opened the package, I was completely caught off guard. It was truly amazing! Everything in there was inspiring, filled with love and thoughtfulness. It was the way you had personalized each gift. It was overwhelming and I could not stop crying. Everything you sent was absolutely beautiful. I felt connected with my daughter. I cannot thank you enough for this precious care package. Thank you so much for all the information too!”
“I just received a package in the mail this weekend. When I got home Sunday, I opened it. It was awesome,beautiful, personalized. It literally took my breathe away and brought tears to my eyes. Thank you, I love it.”
“There are no words that can ease our deep sorrow at the loss of our dear husband and father. However it strengthens us to realize that your wonderful ministry in memory of your beautiful daughter is close to our hearts. Your support and acts of kindness reflect the Lord’s love. We received our Care Package on my husband’s birthday and we were deeply touched!! The unfailing love of Jesus brings us peace and your compassion comforts us!! We can never thank you enough!”
“Today as I regularly checked my mail, I was dropped to my knees in tears. I received the most beautiful gift of love from Ellie’s Way. As it has been six years since I held my son, and six years since I had to say goodbye to him. This package has given me peace today. To be able to hold the stone with my son’s picture, to wear the necklace with his photo…this means so much to our family as he was only with us for three short months. Now I can carry him with me on the outside as well as inside for all to see my sun-shine. Thank you ever so much.”
“I loved the care and thought that was put into it, the personalized items, the feeling of love that I got when I opened it. This is one of the most amazing things I have received since my daughter’s passing.”
“What you all are doing for parents that lost their children is wonderful! God Bless you all.”
“I just wanted to say thank you for the package. I especially loved then worry stone and necklace. You have helped me keep my beautiful daughter’s memory alive and for that I am forever grateful. Our babies are our life. Near or far.”
“I liked every single thing in this package! So beautiful in every way! It was so personal & inspiring! I am so in love with the necklace!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart, absolutely beautiful.”
“Thank you guys so much for all your hard work and this beautiful gift I got today. I’m so in love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
“I received your care package yesterday. Don’t know if it was by chance or if you looked ahead and mailed the package to arrive on the anniversary of my son’s death or not. It is a struggle to make it through the day and the package was uplifting. The package means so much to me, especially the necklace and personalized items. I will cherish them forever. I can tell you put a great deal of thought, concern, and love into the package.”
“No words can express what I was feeling as I was opening the wonderful gift you guys sent me! I love every piece that was in it! What your organization is doing is so amazing and helps so many people. Thank you so much for everything!”
“I just received your package from Ellie’s Way. It has the most amazing things in it and I appreciate it so very much. I’m sorry about this terrible journey you have just begin to walk through. You are handling it in a good way by letting God come through you. That is not always an easy thing to do, I have a tendency to be angry and blame God. My daughter was such a radiant christian and like others I just have to ask why! I will pray for y’all and for the mission you are doing. Thanks again for Ellie’s care package. It is so meaningful for me!”
“Such an amazing gift, couldn’t have came at a more perfect time, this made my heart smile when I opened the box, thank you from the bottom of my heart, I will forever cherish this. Now I can wear my necklace and have my son close to my heart.”
“I can’t thank you enough for everything! The package was beautifully put together and the necklace was made with such love and I feel like someone really cared about my child. The booklets and journal are very helpful in so many ways. I have read and reread the booklets, they make me feel comfort when nothing seems to make sense. Again I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all that you have done for myself and other families. I can never repay you for the love and kindness that you are filling this world with.”
“Thank you so much for the beautiful gift you sent my friend’s mom after she passed away. I have tears in my eyes. It is a wonderful thing you do to honor your daughter and it made her day today when she opened it. Thank you so much!”
“My family and I received our package today….words can’t even express how grateful we are! The gifts inside are truly beautiful! Thank you so much.”
“I got the care package today and I can not thank you enough for it. I love the necklace and the other stuff. Thank you all so very much.”
“I received a Ellie’s Way Care Package today. I opened my package to find a beautiful Ellie’s Way memorial necklace for my son. In memory of Ellie, a precious little girl that touched many hearts during her lifetime. In my package I also received awesome grief resources, encouragement, comfort and hope. As I wear this beautiful necklace of my son, close to my heart daily, I also wear a piece of Ellie! Words honestly can’t describe my feelings at the moment. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, Todd and Kristen Nigro. This is a wonderful gift you have blessed me with, and an awesome organization you have founded in memory, of your loving little Ellie!!!”
“My family and I received our package today. Words can’t even express how grateful we are! The gifts inside are truly beautiful! Ellie’s Way is really making an impact. I was in tears when I heard about the care package, honestly! Just the thought that others are thinking of you means so much during your period of grief. You are so wonderful!”
“The lockets are beautiful and have brought joy to everyone who has received one. Thank you for doing what you do.”
“I received my beautiful necklace today in remembrance of my son. Thanks so much. God Bless you.”
“I was looking through the internet trying to find info. On loss, grief, hurt. And I came across your web page I read the story on Ellie it brought a lot of peace to my heart when I was done reading her story. My story is the youngest of the family which was my brother was killed in very bad car accident recently. It has been very difficult for everyone dealing with his loss especially being the youngest of the bunch. Indeed he was an angel, he was living with my dear mother at home and taking care of her and the things around the house. It has been extremely hard for my mom. I would love more info or to talk to someone just to let it out. I have my moments when I have to be around people at work and I feel like I to have a breakdown. Please keep my family in your prayers. God Bless you and keep you all. Thank You!”
“I received my care package today. I was in shock and had no idea it was coming so soon. My necklace is beyond perfection and now my daughter is on my heart…I am speechless and so happy…y’all are such a blessing.”
“I received the most wonderful, heartfelt and touching package today that will help me to mourn and honor the memory of the son I lost. It is a wonderful source of comfort. A huge thank you to the founders, Todd and Kristen Nigro. You both brought me tears, smiles and yes, even some peace. ❤️I will light a very special candle to honor your beautiful angel Ellie.”
“I received my care package about a month ago. I waited to the first angelversary of my son who died by suicide. I opened it on Mothers Day and it was the best gift ever. Thank you so much for this, it is greatly appreciated.”
“The thought of someone caring enough to send me beautiful reminders that she is alive in spirit and that I am not alone was perfect. I cannot thank you enough. There are no words to express my gratitude.”
“I received my gift today and I found it to be awesome. I think it will be of great help in dealing with the loss of my daughter.
“Ellie’s Way has been built with love! After hearing of Ellie’s Way, I have gained so much knowledge and support that is crucial to my grieving process. I have also been able to share everyone’s experience, strength and hope with my children. They really care! Thank you Ellie’s Way!”
“I just want to thank you so much for the amazing gift box that you you sent to me for my son! It arrived just in time for his Anniversary this Sunday. I love the way you personalized it just for him. Thank you!”
“So thankful for this care package we received yesterday. It means so much to us to know that people still care about us and aren’t rushing our grief. Thanks for all ya’ll do.”
“I thank you for sharing your story with us and I am sorry for your loss. Ellie’s legacy will definitely live on through your testimony to hurting people. In this life we all will suffer loss at some point in our lives and it is good news to know that we are not alone. We have the Lord who will never leave us and each other. Resting in the peace of knowing we will see our fellow brothers and sisters in Heaven. May God continue to bless and use you for his glory.”
“One of the things I absolutely love about Ellie’s Way is that it is such a surprise. Random acts of kindness are the most humbling. To know that total strangers hear of your story and want to reach out is fantastic. Thank you for allowing us a way to give back to others, it is very healing.”
“This care package is awesome. When it comes and you open and see all the things inside, it makes you sad and happy at the same time! I am thankful that there are people like you around and even though you are going through a loss, you have the strength to help others. Bless you and your angel. Thank you again!”
“Thank you so much for this beautiful necklace. I love, love, love it!!! What you do for others is just amazing!! God Bless you all!!”
“Thank you so much for the care package I received today in memory of my son that passed. It was one of the most touching gifts I have ever received, catered to my son and my journey of grief. I’m excited to wear my beautiful necklace to work tomorrow as I listen to the CDs. Loved the memory stone, the books, journal and all the amazing gifts. I thank you sincerely and appreciate your outreach to parents dealing with such a loss.”
“Thank you so much for my care package! I loved it and it really helped lift my spirits! I SO appreciate the work you guys do!!”