Ellie’s Way Care Plan
First of all, we are so sorry for your loss. We wish you had no reason to be here. But, as we found out ourselves, we don’t get to choose our life’s path. We are not prepared in any way for such circumstances and now is the time to organize, maximize, and deliver the goodwill within your community (family, friends, neighbors, and compassionate people you don’t even know). People want to help, but don’t know what to do. Families need help, but don’t know what they need.
Why do we want to help?
We lost our six-year-old daughter, Ellie, on January 20, 2012 in a tragic accident. Everyone wanted to help, but no one really knew what to do. We were in shock and had no idea what we needed then or over the course of the next year. Our life as we knew it was over, and we needed to learn what our new life looked like. It is our passion to help families in these difficult situations.
Have you identified a Support Director?
We recommend that you identify a Support Director as soon as possible. This person should be a trusted friend or family member that can take care of details, guard the door, answer the phone, help with planning services, and coordinate for you. This person should be in tune with your desires.
Support Website Template
We all handle things differently. We have different needs and preferences. While we have developed a plan that we think meets many of the needs you will face, feel free to customize the help you will receive.
We have developed a support website template to help organize, maximize, and deliver your communities goodwill to you. Through our experience, we learned that providing a single source point of information is critical for the community to avoid communication problems and inefficient flow of information. The sooner the support website is up and running, the more useful it will be.
There are a few things that can be very helpful. For example, purchasing an easy to remember domain name (such as www.EllieNigro.com), creating a YouCaring donation page, setting up a memorial Facebook page, and signing up for a Google account if you don’t already have one. We are happy to share a sample website template with you. It can be edited and implemented in any way that you desire.
There are many unexpected costs associated with these situations. Please identify a TRUSTED family member or close friend to be the Donation Sponsor as that person should set up the account and will be the recipient of the funds which should be transferred to you. We recommend www.YouCaring.com, but there are other websites available also.
Facebook Memorial Page
Memories are precious and something you will treasure. Facebook is a great way to record memories and let your community contribute thoughts. Please identify a TRUSTED family member or close friend to be the Facebook Sponsor as that person will set up the Facebook Memorial page. At some point, you will want to take over the admin control for the account.
Contact Us for Assistance/Feedback
Please contact us if you have any questions or feedback. The path of child loss is a long and difficult one that need not be walked alone.
Todd and Kristen Nigro
Ellie’s Way Links
“Thank you so much for the beautiful gift you sent my friend’s mom after she passed away. I have tears in my eyes. It is a wonderful thing you do to honor your daughter and it made her day today when she opened it. Thank you so much!”
“My family and I received our package today….words can’t even express how grateful we are! The gifts inside are truly beautiful! Thank you so much.”
“We received a beautiful care package today and just want to say a big thank you to you all. This is amazing what you all do for grieving parents. And ours came right at the perfect time, right around my little man’s birthday. Again thank you so much I will hold this dear to my heart forever!”
"Everything in the care package was filled with so much love!"
“As my daughter checked the mail today. I heard her yell, ‘Mommy, somebody got a package!’ Here at my house, we love packages! So we sat down and opened it, and each piece I pulled out was a blessing. All the information is what I need. I am struggling especially this week. And when I got to the tokens of love you sent. The stone, coin and metal mini plaque. They are so beautiful and it touched me so deeply. I will be honest, I unwrapped that pink paper and when I got to the end of it and I seen her face, her beautiful little face, I felt it…. I don’t think that I have felt that feeling in so long, it was like I saw her again. I was excited, it was that excited feeling you get when you haven’t seen someone in awhile, the one where you have missed them so much and you were so extremely elated to see them. Just for a second I had that feeling. Thank you you gave that to me even if it were just a second. That second was fabulous. So again, thank you. When I turned over the necklace and saw the I love you and angel wings, her face, daughter, in memory of. I can’t tell you how you have impacted me. Ellie has some wonderful family. She is so lucky. So is my daughter to have a heaven friend like Ellie. You are so amazing. From my soul Thank you so much. You have changed a part of me forever. All my love.”
“God bless you for having the courage to help others in your time of sorrow. I received a package for my daughter and it is absolutely gorgeous. The reading material was a big help. Your kindness will help so many suffering this loss and her name will be remembered forever.”
“I received your care package yesterday. Don’t know if it was by chance or if you looked ahead and mailed the package to arrive on the anniversary of my son’s death or not. It is a struggle to make it through the day and the package was uplifting. The package means so much to me, especially the necklace and personalized items. I will cherish them forever. I can tell you put a great deal of thought, concern, and love into the package.”
“I work with Youth for Christ. On occasion, I officiate weddings and I also do funerals – generally kids or family members of unchurched kids I work with. On Sunday I had the tough task of doing a memorial service for a 29 year old that had taken his life and left a 22 year old bride – neither are attending church or are involved in any way – their mother happened to attend the same church I do. I searched looking for some verses and came upon your site. It was very helpful and it gave me a format to follow as I had no relationship with family prior to this. Jesus was glorified and I received a lot of really positive feedback from the service. Some asked about attending church and others felt it was sensitive to all – regardless of background. My prayer had been that the service would offer hope – the work that you’ve done is not in vain. Hope that the Spirit warms your heart knowing that your tragedy has birthed hope for others. Thanks for sharing!”
“Thank you so so much! I love all of my special little treasures, even though it has been a bit of hard to face, going through the special little box, I know it waits for me. Thank you for your time, your mission and all the love and honor you pack in one little box. AMAZING what a BLESSING you are!”
“Thank you so much for my beautiful custom locket, you do a great service for parents that walk the same path as you.”
“I just got the most amazing package in the mail!! With my daughter’s third angelversary coming up, it was so appreciated. Thank you!!!”
“I received the most wonderful, heartfelt and touching package today that will help me to mourn and honor the memory of the son I lost. It is a wonderful source of comfort. A huge thank you to the founders, Todd and Kristen Nigro. You both brought me tears, smiles and yes, even some peace. ❤️I will light a very special candle to honor your beautiful angel Ellie.”
“The entire package was amazing! I loved the personalization of my son’s name and his pictures. I loved that it wasn’t just a thrown together thing that was the same for everyone. It was MY package for me and me only! It is a gift that will forever be cherished! Thank you soooooo much!”
“THANK YOU so much for my care package in memory of my son who died by suicide in 2007. I loved everything about the pink box and it truly was a blessing to me! I can’t wait to order one for another Mom who lost her child to suicide…I know it will bless her too. The teal journal is beautiful and with the helpful prompts, it will be very easy to use also. The necklace is amazing! Thank you for all you do for grieving parents.”
“There are no words that can ease our deep sorrow at the loss of our dear husband and father. However it strengthens us to realize that your wonderful ministry in memory of your beautiful daughter is close to our hearts. Your support and acts of kindness reflect the Lord’s love. We received our Care Package on my husband’s birthday and we were deeply touched!! The unfailing love of Jesus brings us peace and your compassion comforts us!! We can never thank you enough!”
“This care package is awesome. When it comes and you open and see all the things inside, it makes you sad and happy at the same time! I am thankful that there are people like you around and even though you are going through a loss, you have the strength to help others. Bless you and your angel. Thank you again!”
“My family and I received our package today. Words can’t even express how grateful we are! The gifts inside are truly beautiful! Ellie’s Way is really making an impact. I was in tears when I heard about the care package, honestly! Just the thought that others are thinking of you means so much during your period of grief. You are so wonderful!”
“I received my care package today. I can’t explain the emotions I felt when I opened my box. What you are doing in memory of your beautiful daughter is incredible. There is no greater pain than losing a child. But it’s heartwarming to know that there are others that know the pain you feel and support your emotions. Thank you. I can’t say it enough.”
“I received a gift box today from you. I loved all of the literature and momentos. I could tell this was prepared with love and care to help me in this grief journey I am on. Thank you and may God continue to bless you.”
“We received our order today of the care package. Thank you so very much. It is so welcomed and appreciated. I love the little extra touches of the necklace with the charm inside with my son’s picture and the little token also with his picture. I will take great comfort in listening to the CD and reading the many items included. You have no idea how this touches my soul. I know you share our loss, even though your’s is unique. The fact we have both lost our children is what brings us together. What a wonderful way to remember Ellie and help those in pain. Thank you again.”
“Today as I regularly checked my mail, I was dropped to my knees in tears. I received the most beautiful gift of love from Ellie’s Way. As it has been six years since I held my son, and six years since I had to say goodbye to him. This package has given me peace today. To be able to hold the stone with my son’s picture, to wear the necklace with his photo…this means so much to our family as he was only with us for three short months. Now I can carry him with me on the outside as well as inside for all to see my sun-shine. Thank you ever so much.”
“I received my gift today and I found it to be awesome. I think it will be of great help in dealing with the loss of my daughter.
“Look what I got today! This necklace is the BEST! Thank you guys so much for an absolutely incredible idea. What a great way to raise money for Ellie’s Way while helping others heal. It is beautiful!!! Thank you both for your continued ministry.”
“I love this. I lost my two kids in a fire in May of 2011. My baby girl was 4 and my baby boy was 2. It was so hard to let them go and it’s still hard now but I try to stay strong since God decided to bless us with another baby 3 months after they went to heaven. People like us that had to lose our babies need support. Thank you. God bless!”
“I just received your package from Ellie’s Way. It has the most amazing things in it and I appreciate it so very much. I’m sorry about this terrible journey you have just begin to walk through. You are handling it in a good way by letting God come through you. That is not always an easy thing to do, I have a tendency to be angry and blame God. My daughter was such a radiant christian and like others I just have to ask why! I will pray for y’all and for the mission you are doing. Thanks again for Ellie’s care package. It is so meaningful for me!”
“Ellie’s Way has been built with love! After hearing of Ellie’s Way, I have gained so much knowledge and support that is crucial to my grieving process. I have also been able to share everyone’s experience, strength and hope with my children. They really care! Thank you Ellie’s Way!”
“The package was absolutely beautiful! I could feel the love that went into making this package pouring out of the box as I went through it! My most favorite item in the box is my necklace. I wear it everyday from the time I get up to the time I go to bed! I will cherish it for as long as I live! I can’t possibly thank you all enough for my care package!!"
“Thank you so much for my package! I absolutely loved it. I can see how much time you take in each package..making sure they are perfect for the moms and dads..it is so appreciated.”
“I thank you for sharing your story with us and I am sorry for your loss. Ellie’s legacy will definitely live on through your testimony to hurting people. In this life we all will suffer loss at some point in our lives and it is good news to know that we are not alone. We have the Lord who will never leave us and each other. Resting in the peace of knowing we will see our fellow brothers and sisters in Heaven. May God continue to bless and use you for his glory.”
“The Ellie’s Way Care Package is by far the best I have received! So much love, commitment and dedication goes into this organization! Thanks to the Nigros, and all the volunteers!”
“Loved my care package! It lifted me up when I was missing my daughter so much and I’m the pit of despair. It brought me hope again.”
“I loved my care package. It brought tears to my eyes when I opened it, especially the necklace. Now I can have my angel baby close to me wherever I go. It feels good to know that somebody understands what we’re going through and actually cares. God bless you for all the work that you do to bring hope and a smile to bereaved parents. Thank God for people like you.”
“Hello, I want to thank you for the most wonderful gift I’ve ever received. I donated last night a box in the name of my son. Thank you so very much.”
“I received a Ellie’s Way Care Package today. I opened my package to find a beautiful Ellie’s Way memorial necklace for my son. In memory of Ellie, a precious little girl that touched many hearts during her lifetime. In my package I also received awesome grief resources, encouragement, comfort and hope. As I wear this beautiful necklace of my son, close to my heart daily, I also wear a piece of Ellie! Words honestly can’t describe my feelings at the moment. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, Todd and Kristen Nigro. This is a wonderful gift you have blessed me with, and an awesome organization you have founded in memory, of your loving little Ellie!!!”
“I loved the whole care package. It made me feel that Ellie’s Way cares for me.”
“Today I received an amazing care package from Ellie’s Way. They are an amazing non-profit that sends out care packages to families who have lost a child. I had seen friends also receive packages, and so also ordered one for a local mom who has an upcoming birthday in October without her son, who should be turning 3 years old. Please go check out Ellie’s Way!”
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“Ellie’s way is an awesome site that helps grieving parents. I lost my oldest daughter 1 year ago. The care package from Ellie’s Way helped me in my grief journey. Thank you so much to this organization for continuing to help me through not only my grief but others grief as well!!! God bless you.”
“I liked every single thing in this package! So beautiful in every way! It was so personal & inspiring! I am so in love with the necklace!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart, absolutely beautiful.”
“I received my care package yesterday. I can’t thank you enough. Your package and gifts truly touched my heart! Thank you SO MUCH!”
“It was far more then I could have ever hoped for, thank you! All the thoughtful pieces that went into the package from the sticky notes to the books, it was amazing and I can’t thank you enough.”
“Thank you so much for my care package! I loved it and it really helped lift my spirits! I SO appreciate the work you guys do!!”
“I just received my care package and it just brought such joy to my day. Even though my son died over 5 years ago, the pain of his absence never goes away and is as fresh as the day it happened. Thank you for the beautiful treasures that I found inside the box. God Bless you for all you do.”
“I just want to thank you so much for the beautiful gift box that you have given me for my son! It was so amazing and I cherish every part of it! May God bless you for the wonderful things that you are doing for others!”
“The care package was so thoughtful and perfect. I am so grateful to you.”
“I just wanted you to know how much your care package meant to me. They are gifts I will always treasure and I will think of Ellie’s special gift. It helped me in seeing my son’s name. Much gratitude and love sent to you.”
“I received my care package today. I was in shock and had no idea it was coming so soon. My necklace is beyond perfection and now my daughter is on my heart…I am speechless and so happy…y’all are such a blessing.”
“I got the care package today and I can not thank you enough for it. I love the necklace and the other stuff. Thank you all so very much.”
“I received my Care Package this week and want to thank you so much for putting together this beautiful package. When looking through the items I could not help but cry over the loss of my precious 18 year old son. The personal items are so amazing along with every single item you provided. The books are great, music is wonderful and all the books on heaven I just love! Again as soon as I am back on my feet I plan on paying it forward and donate to this amazing fund. Again, thank you and may God continue to bless you and your work.
“Thank you so much! Today I received such an amazing gifs honoring my son. It’s been really hard these past months since his passing. Thank you for the memory stone, personalized items with his name, books to cope with his loss, beautiful poems, a diary to write all my feelings, and that it’s okay to cry. Words could not ever express how grateful my family and I are for these gifts. They are a blessing! I love them all. Thank you for all your kind words.”
“I can’t thank you enough for everything! The package was beautifully put together and the necklace was made with such love and I feel like someone really cared about my child. The booklets and journal are very helpful in so many ways. I have read and reread the booklets, they make me feel comfort when nothing seems to make sense. Again I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all that you have done for myself and other families. I can never repay you for the love and kindness that you are filling this world with.”