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I believe that I live in the past with not much desire to move into a new phase of life without my precious daughter. She was my best friend. I have never shared this before. Maybe it is because no one here knows or expects anything from me.
I completely understand and feel the same way you do. I am so sorry for the loss of your angel! Losing a child is heartbreaking, soul shattering. Bless your heart, hon. Be good to yourself.
I live in the gift of the present! There is nothing I can do about the past, but remember the good times and the loved shared. Obviously, the future is uncertain and no use worrying about that. So, I try to live in each moment, loving people, and appreciating everything that I’ve been blessed with. There is so much beauty to see all around, and I try to slow down and take it all in.
I would to be where you are. I can see beauty and count my blessings but I am in a non-existant bubble right now. It has only been 19 months since the passing of my 17 year old son. I am trying to be patient with myself and not push through this.
Hard one! I live in the past because I will never get over losing him. Future because I have my grandbabies to look forward too.
I know that’s two answers, but I know other parents will understand.
My life is split into “before” and “after” I love the memories from before my son died. I talk about him all the time. In the “after” it was a struggle to enjoy life again and be present in the day to day..It has gotten better and great things have happened giving us new memories..but..there is always a cloud hovering over me, and I think there always will be..we are 5 ,years into our journey
I agree with this perspective. It is not possible for me to totally emerge from under the cloud. I pray someday I will see the sunshine and not the cloud. It has been 7 years since I lost Drew.
Same feelings. I am parenting my younger son a lot differently! I feel so responsible for my son’s death…
Live in the past when Michael was killed. Cant seem to go forward as he is always on my mind. Just miss him so much.
I live mostly in the present but there is a past that I will never forget.Adrian, 20 yrs and Mikey 16 yrs, my angel sons, were murdered on 06-06-98. Their memories will live on forever! I have a third son who is now an only child, Matthew, 26 yrs. He was 8 yrs old in 1998. We have been through so much since that tragic day! But my FAITH in Jesus Christ keeps me going for my husband of 39 yrs marriage and Matthew.!
For the last two years I have lived in the past rewinding all the horror, anger, grief; what if’s, shoulda, coulda, woulda; if only I had known……
I had no future.
Now, I dread the future, but am trying to make the conscious decision to live in the present…a task that I had started preparing for 12 years prior. God knows what shape I would be in if I hadnt studied meditation!
I live in the present, but look forward to the future I know I have waiting for me in heaven with our Savior and my BFF Toodles, and hold precious memories of the past as my treasures.
I don’t live in the past but I visit there often….after all it is the only place I can find my son now. I live in the present because I am raising his children but I look forward to the future when I know I will see my Lord and my son again.
The past. But I have to exist in the present because I have a family. The future, I don’t even think about it really.