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Amy
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No, Lawson was gone in an instant. I was in a different room in the house when the accident occurred, but was there within seconds of it happening. One of the verses we have on his headstone says “No farewell words were spoken, No time to say goodbye, You were gone before we knew it, And only God knows why”

Amanda
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I was not able to say good bye to either of my children that passed away. It weighs heavy on my heart every single day. But, I know they hear all of my thoughts and prayers about them. In a way I never have said goodbye.

Sandra
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I had been looking at flowers on a site and told my husband I want a certain kind when I died.. My daughter looked over my shoulder and saw some she said she liked. We did not know but she would die that night. We did not get to say goodbye… I got up and saw her bedroom door open, which she did not do, I looked in she was beside her bed kneeling I called her name and then touched her shoulder. She was gone; 30 years 6 months and 15 days old. It has been 18 months we… Read more »
Angela Posey
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We feel your pain and identify completely with how you are feeling. Hugs and prayers for Gods continued carrying grace.

Maria Williams
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Sending you lots of love and hugs.

Erica
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I was only able to say goodbye once they stopped trying to save him in the hospital. My dad, grandma, boyfriend and uncle had all come and stayed in the room telling me I needed to let go. I didn’t want to let go, letting go meant he wasn’t with us anymore. He was my baby. I wish I had some alone time with him before they took him away. I told him how much I loved and missed him. How sorry I was that this happened to him. I hope he heard me.

Amy
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He did. I believe that.

Todd Nigro
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I didn’t know that it was time to say goodbye. But, I did say “I Love You”, and I know she knew that.

Teresa Whitaker
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I was only able to say goodbye, after he was gone. But I already knew he was gone when we arrived at the scene. So I was so numb, by the time we got to the hospital. But it’s really “Until we meet again”.

Margaret
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When my 33 year old daughter walked out of our door on a Sunday night, I never, ever imagined that she would be in a casket the next time I saw her on Monday. It has haunted me for these 3 years that there were so many things we never got to say. I still talk to her. I hope she can hear me.

Julie
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No I did not get to say goodbye to my daughter, she passed away from an accidental overdose alone in her room and I found her when I got home from work…my world and heart shattered that evening

Crystal Phillips
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No. My son’s death was sudden, tragic, and preventable

Melanie Scarborough
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Ditto. There were so many factors that could have prevented my son’s death that night. Because he lived in a different state from me, I did not even get to see him until the day after his death. Seeing him was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.

Bonnie Breer
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Joshua was in the SICU for ten days before he died and I was with him through it all and when he died. So I said goodbye and I love you. I am grateful I had that time with him even though he was comatous I think he knew I was there and felt my love.

Jennifer Lantz
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I was not able to say goodbye. I had Erica in counseling and was trying to help her deal with her depression and the bullying she was receiving but i never thought she would kill herself

Debi Brady
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NO! How can you say goodbye when you never got a chance to know that there was even a need to. I thought we had forever.

Becky
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No

Patricia Lopez
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NO and it is killing me!

Mary
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I did not get to say goodbye to my son.

ange schmehl
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We got a phone call saying that Ronin was not doing well and they needed to start antibiotics so we okayed it I asked if we should go to the hospital. ..they said no about an hour and half later we get a call saying we need to get to the hospital. …we make calls as we are getting dressed…we get to the garage and they called and said that he died….we were only five minutes away from him….his twin was right next to him….

Louise White
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No, I was not able to say goodbye to either child; however, I “knew” when Shawn was killed and I had a violent reaction the moment my daughter Marie died and I was an ocean away.

Christy
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No totally unexpected death she was 19 and our last conversation was not a pleasant one. I feel terribly.

Maria Williams
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Sending you lots of love and hugs.

Maria Williams
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No I didn’t have a chance to say goodbye. My daughter Tiffany was born with a rare genetic disorder. We were told she wouldn’t live past her first birthday. So the first year of her life we tried to do everything we could with her. Well God had other plans for her. He blessed us with her for 25 years. She did get to celebrate her 25th Birthday which is in August. God called her home on October 3,2013. We took her to urgent care because she had thrash in, her mouth. The doctor checked her it was gone. We… Read more »
Dena Steele
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No I didn’t get there in time to say goodbye. It all happened so fast

Maria Williams
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So sorry. Sending lots of love and hugs.

Cecille
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I never got to say goodbye! She died suddenly. She never woke up.

Stacy
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I’m sorry I know how heartbreaking that is. Hugs to you!

Jannora
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No I talked to my son the day and night before he got killed. I said I love you and a few hours later he was dead. I often wonder was it instant, did he know, did he cry knowing he would never see me or his children?

Deana Martin
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No I was in a different state. My children were in a auto accident in IN and we live in GA.

Stacy
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No I was at least with my son but the doctor told me they were moving him to critical care, I did get to tell him I love him but then they kicked us out of his room and what seemed like a lifetime they came to us and said that he didn’t make it despite all their efforts.

Kelly
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I wasn’t able to say goodbye to Jim. He died in his sleep beside me in bed. He thought he had a cold so we went to bed early. It wasn’t until the autopsy came back that we realized he had pneumonia and that the cough syrup they gave him at the clinic the day before contributed to him not breathing. I was devastated when i woke up 3 hours after the last time he spoke to me and started CPR but it was too late.

Deanna
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I never got to say goodbye. My 10 year old son passed away unexpectedly in his sleep.

Carleen
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She called me hours before she died. If I could have known I would have said a lot more. But we did tell each other “I love you!”

Julie
Guest

No I was not able to say goodbye and tell my son how much I love him and so proud of him I am I will never be the same nor do I want to

Marlene
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I was with my son Saturday night, we took him home and when he reached the door he turned around and said “Mom, you know I love you right” and I said yes and I love you too. On Sunday we got the call that he had an accident. After that everything was blur and a nightmare. I saw him again on Tuesday in casket! I don’t remember what I said. I was in shock! I don’t think I said goodbye.

FAITH
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No, I couldn’t say goodbye. My grandson was 10 weeks old. Had a normal morning. Around 12N he had his bottle, went down for a nap, and didn’t wake up. He died of SIDS. Sudden Infant Death Syndrome.

Angela Posey
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We did not get to say goodbye and I felt so bad that we did not have the privilege to say goodbye, but later I thought how does one say “goodbye” to their child anyway? It must be most heart wrenching.

Greg Posey
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We did not have a chance to say goodbye. Savannah passed away at home. I was doing CPR. The EMTs came in, took over, and we were ushered to the front yard. I saw them come out with her, but my mind could not process what had happened. We didn’t see her again until the family viewing. I never want to experience it again. I wish now we could have at least seen her at the funeral home before they brought her to the church. I know we will see her again one day, and I praise God daily for… Read more »
Doranne
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No I was not able to say goodbye I never even got to see her after she died. The Medical examiner got her, did an autopsy then she when to the funeral home. My son told them not to let me see her as it has already been more than a week and they had cut her up. Also I used to be a nurse I knew it would not be a pretty sight. It was not an accident it took them almost two months to figure out why she died. Ruled it accidental from the frumes of the stuff… Read more »
gayle moak
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No

Laurie Hoffman
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No, i was never able to say goodbye. He left for school as usual that morning and made it less than 1/2 a mile on the freeway before he was cut off and killed. I feel horrible I never even saw Cody that morning… never even said good morning, have a great day at school or even goodbye…… I hate that part…. 🙁

Carol J Raney
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I did not get to say goodbye to Chase. He got killed in a motorcycle wreck. When we got to him it was to late. I think about it all the time. He was my only child.

Kelly Benter
Guest

No. My son passed when I was out of town. He was instantly an angel.

Genevra De Mond
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No i wasn’t able to say good-bye to either of my sons who died almost the same time, but two states away from me. They will always be together, forever 39 & 37, 4.4 years ago, but it always weighs on my mind, that I wasn’t able to say good-bye and tell them how VERY much I love them and how VERY much they meant to me. I don’t know if being able to say good-bye would have made it any easier, but someone I think I would have felt a little better. I don’t know. Now I have no… Read more »
Theresa Mapes
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I am so sorry Geneva. Omg I have no words . None of us really do. But to lose 2 children . Unimaginable pain

Kathy Thorpe Bartlett
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Kathy Thorpe Bartlett

I cant ever really say goodbye to my son. Seems like I live in a make believe world and sometimes pretend he has just moved to another state. My bond with my sons has always been a mother/best friend relationship, talks and texts everyday , even after he married , he would confide in me , and my 28 year old still does everyday. They were my White Picket Fence , my hearts 💕 desire. I know I shouldn’t pretend, but I just survive 😢❤💙

suzanne slates
Guest

No, no, no, no, no….and I don’t ‘know’ all these things others say that help them.

Rhonda S Gibson
Guest

Touching my son in his casket was the first time in 5yrs that I was allowed to touch him. My sick obsessed ex brainwashed he and my daughter against me. The pain was unbearable, or so I thought. Now I truly know a pain from the deepest depths of my soul. Rylan completed suicide by hanging this past September.

Sandy Kay
Guest

Yes, in away I was able to say good-bye. My son did not die right away he laid in the ICU unit for 5 days. I did pray over him, hold his hand, kiss on him and told him how much I loved him.

Lisa
Guest

no I spoke w him all that day. that night the phone went to voice mail. I did say I love you and he knew how much! always..

Robin Denault
Guest
No I didn’t get to say goodbye. I had been told by the social worker at his hospital that she had consulted with the doctors and he wasn’t ready for hospice. We were looking into a private facility for him. So I’m thinking there’s more time. The night before he died I told him on the phone I was getting my airline ticket to come see him. He said ” that’s wonderful!” And I said when I saw him I would give him a hug as big as the ocean that separated us. That night I was going to bible… Read more »
Keilah McDonald
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I lost my biological dad, step mom and 10 year old sister in a plane crash. I lost my step-dad who raised me when he was murdered. I lost my 13 year old grandson to suicide 2 months ago. I wasn’t able to say goodbye to anyone. I’ve learned over the years to say goodbye in my own way. My grandson is still the absolute worst and I am still trying to process it. I pray in time I will be able to say goodbye to him. Each tragedy has taken me in a different direction, but my faith in… Read more »
Kate Stolz
Guest

I was not able to say goodbye. As they loaded him onto the ambulance he asked if I would be coming to the hospital and I said, “Of course.”
He was gone before I got there.

Betsy Nichols
Guest
Yes. I didn’t know that was going to be the end. My son, age 24, had waited for me to wake up. We were in Mayo Clinic. He had almost no strength left but he had wanted me to get some rest. He hugged and kissed me and told me how very much he loved me and how much he appreciated all I had done for him. How he couldn’t have made it without me. I went to the restroom in his room . When I came back , he was unresponsive. He never regained consciousness and died that night.… Read more »
Rhonda
Guest

No I’m not able to say goodbye

Carol
Guest

Nope, I said good night, left Robbie with his dad and went up to bed. 3 hours later I found him, cold, blue, lifeless. Images a momma can never forget.

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