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No, Lawson was gone in an instant. I was in a different room in the house when the accident occurred, but was there within seconds of it happening. One of the verses we have on his headstone says “No farewell words were spoken, No time to say goodbye, You were gone before we knew it, And only God knows why”
I was not able to say good bye to either of my children that passed away. It weighs heavy on my heart every single day. But, I know they hear all of my thoughts and prayers about them. In a way I never have said goodbye.
We feel your pain and identify completely with how you are feeling. Hugs and prayers for Gods continued carrying grace.
Sending you lots of love and hugs.
I was only able to say goodbye once they stopped trying to save him in the hospital. My dad, grandma, boyfriend and uncle had all come and stayed in the room telling me I needed to let go. I didn’t want to let go, letting go meant he wasn’t with us anymore. He was my baby. I wish I had some alone time with him before they took him away. I told him how much I loved and missed him. How sorry I was that this happened to him. I hope he heard me.
He did. I believe that.
I didn’t know that it was time to say goodbye. But, I did say “I Love You”, and I know she knew that.
I was only able to say goodbye, after he was gone. But I already knew he was gone when we arrived at the scene. So I was so numb, by the time we got to the hospital. But it’s really “Until we meet again”.
When my 33 year old daughter walked out of our door on a Sunday night, I never, ever imagined that she would be in a casket the next time I saw her on Monday. It has haunted me for these 3 years that there were so many things we never got to say. I still talk to her. I hope she can hear me.
No I did not get to say goodbye to my daughter, she passed away from an accidental overdose alone in her room and I found her when I got home from work…my world and heart shattered that evening
No. My son’s death was sudden, tragic, and preventable
Ditto. There were so many factors that could have prevented my son’s death that night. Because he lived in a different state from me, I did not even get to see him until the day after his death. Seeing him was the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.
Joshua was in the SICU for ten days before he died and I was with him through it all and when he died. So I said goodbye and I love you. I am grateful I had that time with him even though he was comatous I think he knew I was there and felt my love.
I was not able to say goodbye. I had Erica in counseling and was trying to help her deal with her depression and the bullying she was receiving but i never thought she would kill herself
NO! How can you say goodbye when you never got a chance to know that there was even a need to. I thought we had forever.
NO and it is killing me!
I did not get to say goodbye to my son.
We got a phone call saying that Ronin was not doing well and they needed to start antibiotics so we okayed it I asked if we should go to the hospital. ..they said no about an hour and half later we get a call saying we need to get to the hospital. …we make calls as we are getting dressed…we get to the garage and they called and said that he died….we were only five minutes away from him….his twin was right next to him….
No, I was not able to say goodbye to either child; however, I “knew” when Shawn was killed and I had a violent reaction the moment my daughter Marie died and I was an ocean away.
No totally unexpected death she was 19 and our last conversation was not a pleasant one. I feel terribly.
No I didn’t get there in time to say goodbye. It all happened so fast
So sorry. Sending lots of love and hugs.
I never got to say goodbye! She died suddenly. She never woke up.
I’m sorry I know how heartbreaking that is. Hugs to you!
No I talked to my son the day and night before he got killed. I said I love you and a few hours later he was dead. I often wonder was it instant, did he know, did he cry knowing he would never see me or his children?
No I was in a different state. My children were in a auto accident in IN and we live in GA.
No I was at least with my son but the doctor told me they were moving him to critical care, I did get to tell him I love him but then they kicked us out of his room and what seemed like a lifetime they came to us and said that he didn’t make it despite all their efforts.
I wasn’t able to say goodbye to Jim. He died in his sleep beside me in bed. He thought he had a cold so we went to bed early. It wasn’t until the autopsy came back that we realized he had pneumonia and that the cough syrup they gave him at the clinic the day before contributed to him not breathing. I was devastated when i woke up 3 hours after the last time he spoke to me and started CPR but it was too late.
I never got to say goodbye. My 10 year old son passed away unexpectedly in his sleep.
She called me hours before she died. If I could have known I would have said a lot more. But we did tell each other “I love you!”
No I was not able to say goodbye and tell my son how much I love him and so proud of him I am I will never be the same nor do I want to
I was with my son Saturday night, we took him home and when he reached the door he turned around and said “Mom, you know I love you right” and I said yes and I love you too. On Sunday we got the call that he had an accident. After that everything was blur and a nightmare. I saw him again on Tuesday in casket! I don’t remember what I said. I was in shock! I don’t think I said goodbye.
No, I couldn’t say goodbye. My grandson was 10 weeks old. Had a normal morning. Around 12N he had his bottle, went down for a nap, and didn’t wake up. He died of SIDS. Sudden Infant Death Syndrome.
We did not get to say goodbye and I felt so bad that we did not have the privilege to say goodbye, but later I thought how does one say “goodbye” to their child anyway? It must be most heart wrenching.
No, i was never able to say goodbye. He left for school as usual that morning and made it less than 1/2 a mile on the freeway before he was cut off and killed. I feel horrible I never even saw Cody that morning… never even said good morning, have a great day at school or even goodbye…… I hate that part…. 🙁
I did not get to say goodbye to Chase. He got killed in a motorcycle wreck. When we got to him it was to late. I think about it all the time. He was my only child.
No. My son passed when I was out of town. He was instantly an angel.
I am so sorry Geneva. Omg I have no words . None of us really do. But to lose 2 children . Unimaginable pain
I cant ever really say goodbye to my son. Seems like I live in a make believe world and sometimes pretend he has just moved to another state. My bond with my sons has always been a mother/best friend relationship, talks and texts everyday , even after he married , he would confide in me , and my 28 year old still does everyday. They were my White Picket Fence , my hearts 💕 desire. I know I shouldn’t pretend, but I just survive 😢❤💙
No, no, no, no, no….and I don’t ‘know’ all these things others say that help them.
Touching my son in his casket was the first time in 5yrs that I was allowed to touch him. My sick obsessed ex brainwashed he and my daughter against me. The pain was unbearable, or so I thought. Now I truly know a pain from the deepest depths of my soul. Rylan completed suicide by hanging this past September.
Yes, in away I was able to say good-bye. My son did not die right away he laid in the ICU unit for 5 days. I did pray over him, hold his hand, kiss on him and told him how much I loved him.
no I spoke w him all that day. that night the phone went to voice mail. I did say I love you and he knew how much! always..
I was not able to say goodbye. As they loaded him onto the ambulance he asked if I would be coming to the hospital and I said, “Of course.”
He was gone before I got there.
No I’m not able to say goodbye
Nope, I said good night, left Robbie with his dad and went up to bed. 3 hours later I found him, cold, blue, lifeless. Images a momma can never forget.