I am a fellow traveler in life – walking my path one step at a time. I struggled to get up and walk through the valley of grief after our six-year-old Ellie died in January 2012.

It is my pleasure to share these thoughts, scriptures, and quotes that have helped me during the most difficult time of my life.

Feel free to share this with anyone who might benefit.

With sympathy and love,

-Todd Nigro
(Ellie’s Dad)


The Gift of Life

Life is a gift from God. Our children, family, friends, neighbors, and strangers are all gifts to be savored. Although some days may be full of hardship and sadness, each breath, heartbeat, and thought illustrates the beautiful gift of life. Keep the positive memories alive and thank God for the blessings in your past, present, and future.

“Thanks be to God for his indescribable gift!”

    – 2 Corinthians 9:15

“Let the one who is thirsty come; and let the one who wishes take the free gift of the water of life.”

    – Revelation 22:17

“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

    – Romans 6:23

“There’s promise and beauty in so many things if we are open to it. Even through the darkest moments, if we try and see the light, there is promise in this as well.”

    – Natalie Bacho

“The cross reminds us that there is no true love without suffering, there is no gift of life without pain.”

    – Pope Benedict XVI

Feelings Extravaganza

You will experience many feelings in new ways. Sadness, guilt, despair, anxiety, fear, hopelessness, longing, anger, and frustration will likely run through your mind. Your feelings need to be expressed, but always remember that they are “at this moment.” This gives you hope and permission to have different feelings at a later time. Write a letter to your loved one or keep a journal of your feelings. The “why” and “what-if” questions will be asked over and over in your mind. At some point, you realize that you cannot understand the divine nature of birth or death. Embrace living without an answer by trusting and embracing the mysteries of God.

“For we live by faith, not by sight.”

    – 2 Corinthians 5:7

“…your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.”

    – Matthew 6:10

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.”

    – Helen Keller

“Writing is the only way I have to explain my own life to myself.”

    – Pat Conroy, My Reading Life

“The best way out is always through.”

    – Robert Frost

“One can be the master of what one does, but never of what one feels.”

    – Gustave Flaubert


Let the Tears Flow

What is it about tears we are afraid of? It is human to cry. Crying helps you to heal. Cry with friends, family, and alone. Don’t be surprised when the grief “freight train” runs over you. Just be in the moment, and it will pass. Struggle through your emotions and you will find relief as your reward.

“…weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.”

    – Psalm 30:5

“…a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”

    – Ecclesiastes 3:4

“Drinking from the waters of sorrow sustains a different kind of life. This river is hidden from the rest of the world. Tears drip off my chin into an endless flow of liquid love that sparkles with beauty.”

    – Todd Nigro

“But there was no need to be ashamed of tears. For tears bore witness that a man had the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer.”

    – Victor Frankl

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”

    – Washington Irving

“Listen to God with a broken heart. He is not only the doctor who mends it, but also the father who wipes away the tears.”

    – Criss Jami


Talk to people about your loss and pain. Don’t hide or deny your feelings. Let people know that you need them and ask for help. Consider writing a letter to family and friends outlining your needs. Be patient with those that don’t know what to say. Talk about your loved one, and share your precious memories. Be grateful for those with the courage to hear your pain and stay with you on this journey. Always remember that you can always talk to God through prayer.

“For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.”

    – Matthew 12:34

“The widow who is really in need and left all alone puts her hope in God and continues night and day to pray and to ask God for help.”

    – 1 Timothy 5:5

“For prayer is hope put to the test.
And hope is faith in what is best.
Faith is power to do great things.
Thus, prayer is faith’s enabling wings.”

    – Richelle E. Goodrich

“Refusing to ask for help when you need it is refusing someone the chance to be helpful.”

    – Ric Ocasek

“Sometimes, reaching out and taking someone’s hand is the beginning of a journey. At other times, it is allowing another to take yours.”

    – Vera Nazarian

Grow Through Your Experience

It is not in people’s nature to change. Although loss is not comfortable, it can provide an amazing marker in life for incredible transformation. Look for the lessons to be learned in your situation about yourself and in life. What can you do to overcome and survive? Vow to use your loss situation to generate the energy to become more. You can be defined by your past, or refined by your past. Seek to serve others and value the gift of life in a way that you never knew before.

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

    – John 16:33

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

    – Jeremiah 29:11

“Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.”

    – Anonymous

“People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.”

    – Eleanor Roosevelt

“Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.”

    – Charles Dickens

Grieve Your Way

You have been fundamentally changed by your loss. Others have too. It takes time to discover who you’ve become. Realize that each person is different and will grieve in ways you may not understand. During your time of sorrow, bring your family together. Be patient and find ways to support each other. Guilt and anger need to be expressed and released. Sadness and sorrow can be so heavy and paralyzing. You might struggle with this thought, but grief, guilt, and anguish can be a blessing.

“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”

    – Matthew 5:4

“…my eyes are dim with grief. I call to you, Lord, every day; I spread out my hands to you.”

    – Psalm 88:9

“You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.”

    – Anne Lamott

“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”

    – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Become More

Follow the example of Jesus Christ. Love God with all your heart, soul, and mind. Love people unconditionally. Forgive. See beauty everywhere and give thanks for all the blessings in your life. Become the person that God wants you to be.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”

    – 2 Corinthians 5:17

He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ ”

    – Luke 10:27

“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

    – Philippians 4:7

“It is our hope that it is that no matter what the circumstances, grieving parents can get through the storms of grief and come out on the other side, stronger, more compassionate, and more appreciative of what we all have right now.”

    – Mark and Linda Triplett

“We are all butterflies. Earth is our chrysalis.”

    – LeeAnn Taylor

“You cannot change your destination overnight. You can change your direction.”

    – Jim Rohn


Your Unique Path

God has planned a path for you. You will travel the path on your own, with God to help if you choose. Don’t compare your path with someone else. Other people’s paths may cross or run nearby, but only you can take steps on your path. Only you can choose to see the beauty around your current location and enjoy your journey. There may be amazing drops to deep valleys, but keep looking forward and take it one step at a time.

“Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”

    – Psalm 23:4

“Direct me in the path of your commands, for there I find delight.”

    – Psalm 119:35

“End? No, the journey doesn’t end here. Death is just another path. One that we all must take.”

    – J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King

“There are no wrong turnings. Only paths we had not known we were meant to walk.”

    – Guy Gavriel Kay, Tigana

“If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.”

    – Frank A. Clark

“Over every mountain there is a path, although it may not be seen from the valley.”

    – Theodore Roethke

Accept God’s Grace

Accept that your loss will offer you a new understanding. Trust God with all of your thoughts and feelings, even the negative ones. If you are struggling in your faith, cry out to Him. God is big enough to handle your lament. Accept God’s leadership and live in the palm of His hand. Accept His peace and comfort and be an instrument of His will.

“…and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor.”

    – Isaiah 61:3

“Those who cleanse themselves from the latter will be instruments for special purposes, made holy, useful to the Master and prepared to do any good work.”

    – 2 Timothy 2:21

“Nothing but this moment is guaranteed and I pray that this is a lesson that each person can learn before it has to be discovered.”

    – Keri Cannella-Moye

“Without a heart transformed by the grace of Christ, we just continue to manage external and internal darkness.”

    – Matt Chandler, The Explicit Gospel

“I am nothing but a ripped fabric stitched together by God’s grace.”

    – J.A. ANUM

Forgive, Apologize, and Let Go

God forgives you and loves you. There are two kinds of guilt — false and real. If you have done wrong, repent and ask God to forgive you. Be wary of false guilt. We live with imperfect information and try to make good decisions. Sometimes things don’t work out. Let the anger go as it only destroys you and serves no purpose. No relationship is perfect. You have made mistakes. There are things you wanted to do with your loved one, or things you wish you didn’t say. Thinking about all the things that could have been different can overwhelm you. Accept God’s forgiveness, forgive others, and free yourself from guilt. Apologize from your heart in prayer and let all negative thoughts go.

“Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord.”

    – Acts 3:19

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”

    – Luke 6:37

“It’s okay to smile through your grief. As time passes, it’s okay to laugh and enjoy yourself. Don’t let the devil of guilt consume you. We are still here for a reason. It’s time to live life with purpose and passion.”

    – Daphne Greer

“When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.”

    – Bernard Meltzer

Serve Others

Seek meaning and a positive outcome for your loss. Your loss will open your eyes to those experiencing loss, giving you the unique ability to provide support and compassion to others. Serve other people. Open your eyes to other’s needs and provide comfort. Loving other people will take your mind from your pain and heals your grieving soul more than you realize. Be the rescuer, not the victim.

“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.”

    – 1 Peter 4:10

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

    – Romans 8:28

“When we volunteer to help those in need, we are building rewards in heaven that will last for eternity.”

    – Lourie Formby

“for there is nothing heavier than compassion. Not even one’s own pain weighs so heavy as the pain one feels with someone, for someone, a pain intensified by the imagination and prolonged by a hundred echoes.”

    – Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”

    – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Never Lose Hope

Have hope for a brighter day. As painful as it seems, you can survive and thrive. There might be days when you feel that you are barely surviving. This is normal. Try to believe that the rest of your life can be the best of your life. And, our greatest hope is that of an eternal heaven with our Lord Jesus Christ.

“…but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”

    – Isaiah 40:31

“…the faith and love that spring from the hope stored up for you in heaven and about which you have already heard in the true message of the gospel.”

    – Colossians 1:5

“God never promised an easy life. He said that we will have suffering and heartaches, but He also promised that He will be with us, to comfort us and reunite us on the other side.”

    – Jim Sitton

“Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings the tune without the words
And never stops at all.”

    – Emily Dickinson

“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”

    – Martin Luther King, Jr.

Seek Help and Connect

Grieving is a normal process, but is also unique to each individual. Seek help if you feel stuck. Locate a support group if you need to discuss and vent your feelings to people who understand in a non-judgmental environment. Reach out to your church community and compassionate people. Consider GriefShare, Stephen Ministry, individual counseling, online grief groups, or other support programs. Connect with family members and close friends. Don’t go through grief alone. Seek help from the Lord.

“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.”

    – Proverbs 15:22

“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”

    – Romans 12:15

“Be gentle with yourself. This is a long and hard journey. Reach out for help if you need to and know that you are not alone.”

    – TB

“Never let your ego get in the way of asking for help when in desperate need. We have all been helped at a point in our lives.”

    – Edmond Mbiaka

“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”

    – Henri J.M. Nouwen

You Are What You Think!

Your thoughts determine who you are. Each one of us wrestles with our thoughts, and only God can really “understand” you and see into your mind. Choose your thoughts, actions, and reactions wisely. Take responsibility for your “current” reaction to whatever may have happened to you. Choose positive memories over regret, love over sorrow, forgiveness over anger, and peace over anxiety.

“Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”

    – Philippians 3:13-14

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

    – Philippians 4:8

“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.”

    – Marcus Aurelius

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I — I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.”

    – Robert Frost

“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”

    – Roy T. Bennett

Suffering is Normal

Realize that suffering is a part of life. Learn to suffer well. You and your loved ones will experience trials many times and in many ways. People are watching you, especially as you suffer — show them how to do it with integrity, honor, love, and grace. Ask “God, what am I to learn through this?” Find moments of beauty and joy in the depths of your anguish. Seek God and open your heart to His love and peace.

“When He has tested me, I will come forth as gold.”

    – Job 23:10

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.”

    – James 1:2-3

“Comfort comes from knowing that people have made the same journey. And solace comes from understanding how others have learned to sing again.”

    – Helen Steiner Rice

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

    – Viktor E. Frankl

“But pain’s like water. It finds a way to push through any seal. There’s no way to stop it. Sometimes you have to let yourself sink inside of it before you can learn how to swim to the surface.”

    – Katie Kacvinsky

“Turn your wounds into wisdom.”

    – Oprah Winfrey

This Might Take Awhile — Be Patient!

Don’t put unrealistic demands upon yourself. Let yourself heal according to your own time frame. Each path is unique and will have many ups and downs. Be patient with other grievers and with friends, family, and strangers that do not understand. Keep an eternal perspective.

“Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

    – James 1:4

“…being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience.”

    – Colossians 1:11

“Grief is a journey, often perilous and without clear direction, that must be taken. The experience of grieving cannot be ordered or categorized, hurried or controlled, pushed aside or ignored indefinitely. It is inevitable as breathing, as change, as love. It may be postponed, but it will not be denied.”

    – Molly Fumia

“If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world.”

    – C. S. Lewis

“The strongest of all warriors are these two – Time and Patience.”

    – Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace

“Trees that are slow to grow bear the best fruit.”

    – Molière

Get Busy

Find something to be passionate about. Challenge yourself and take action. Channel your energy and anxiety into a new hobby, sport, or learning something new. Exercise and eat healthy. Staying busy can be an effective way to move forward during stressful periods. Although keeping busy can be helpful, this does not heal a wounded heart. Take time to remember and to grieve as well.

“In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’ ”

    – Acts 20:35

“All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.”

    – Proverbs 14:23

“I figured I better start living because God obviously didn’t want me dead yet! That’s the real lesson with any loss. You are still alive, so live. Don’t just exist. Don’t just breathe in and out. Don’t just go through the motions. LIVE!”

    – Leslie Wachter McDonald

“Trust that an ending is followed by a beginning.”

    – Anonymous

“When you are not sure what to do, take action. You will quickly find out.”

    – Jeffrey Fry

“Hide not your talents, they for use were made,
What’s a sundial in the shade?”

    – Benjamin Franklin

You’ve Made it Through This, Be Fearless!

Do not be afraid. Your loving and forgiving Father is available to you. Trust in Him and His wisdom. You can find the strength to survive and thrive through any situation.

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

    – Joshua 1:9

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

    – John 14:27

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

    – Isaiah 41:10

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”

    – Winston S. Churchill

“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”

    – Maya Angelou

“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.”

    – August Wilson

Love Outshines the Darkness

Remember the love that you shared. Don’t forget the family and friends that are still part of your life. Stay sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. Spend quality time with those that you love and enrich their lives. God loves you unconditionally. Love all people with no expectations. Seek those that need both your love and God’s love. Love involves action. What we do says more about what we believe, than anything we might say.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

    – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

    – 1 Corinthians 13:13

“NEVER give up! It is not over until GOD says it is over! Fight the good fight and keep the faith. LOVE like you never have and LOVE each other no matter what has happened in the past. LOVE outshines the darkness!”

    – Dean Synan

“Love is like the wind, you can’t see it but you can feel it.”

    – Nicholas Sparks, A Walk to Remember

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken.”

    – C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves

A Prayer for the Grieving

“Father, thank you for the beautiful gift of life. I dedicate my life to You . Thank you for forgiving me and saving me through Your Son, Jesus Christ. I’m sorry for the sins I have committed, help me to turn away from them, and be the person You want me to be. I trust that the path created for me is perfectly designed by You. Father, as I struggle through this valley, thank you for the blessings in my life. As I cry in despair, please draw near and soothe my heart. Guide me to be patient and kind, and to reach out to those that love me. Open my eyes to see the eternal souls all around me who are in need. Help me to grow and be transformed through this situation into a more compassionate and loving being. Thank you for the encouragement and support of my family, friends, and church. Father, sustain me to seek You in each moment and to choose my thoughts wisely. Help me to find the strength to do your work. Thank you for helping me to be unafraid. There is great hope in the promise of an eternal heaven with You. Please shine your beautiful light through me, despite my suffering. Your amazing unconditional love is beyond my comprehension. Father, I pray that love, compassion, acceptance, and peace will blossom in me as your presence lights my soul. In Christ’s name, I pray. Amen.”

“This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.”

    – 1 John 5:14

“I have been driven many times upon my knees by the overwhelming conviction that I had no where else to go. My own wisdom and that of all about me seemed insufficient for that day.”

    – Abraham Lincoln

It is my hope that this page has been encouraging to you on your journey.

If you would like to learn more about my family and the impact Ellie has made in my life, click to read my story, Living Ellie’s Way.

We’d love to hear your thoughts on grief (Leave a Comment below). Also, feel free to share with anyone that might benefit.

God Bless,

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Thank you so much for sharing your story and all the words written above. I can’t imagine your pain. Thank you for sharing these words of comfort for those of us who are also struggling. I have a friend right now who is near the end of her life. Her family has called me to come be with her. They say she’s afraid of dying. I just pray that I will be able to be a source of comfort for her. Thank you for that wonderful prayer above. I never feel very good at praying out loud since I wasn’t… Read more »


I am a practicing therapist and as you can imagine I have several clients struggling with grief. I was searching for something to help a particular client that has turned from God and is struggling greatly. I found your story and research very helpful and I plan to use this with several of my clients but also for myself. Thank you very much, and God Bless!

Janie B.
Janie B.

May God bless you and your family. For you through Jesus have blessed me.

Loary C.
Loary C.

I am a counselor and I know all too well the pain of losing a child. In 1974 I lost a beautiful baby girl after 18 hours of birth and then in 1982 I lost an 11 year old girl full of spunk. In January 2014 I lost my final daughter at age 46 who was a wife and a mother she died of liver failure. In addition I have lost bother parents, 2 sisters and one brother. Yes I am no stranger to grief but it is because of these trials that I can stand strong in my faith… Read more »


Thank you so much. We just heard today a client of ours passed away. God is here.
and I look forward to meeting Ellie in heaven someday. What a beautiful family.


I am so sorry for your loss of your child, Ellie. God Bless You. I lost my husband 5 months ago. This grief journey is difficult and painful. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers, they have been helpful. One day at a time! Never stop praying!

Mimi Rivera
Mimi Rivera

Thank you and so sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking to lose a loved one. I will use these scriptures to help me, family and friends go through this hard times of sorrow. I believe that only God knows why he does these things and your scriptures will be a great source of comfort. Thank You and God Bless you Ellie and family today, tomorrow and always.

Katelynn P.
Katelynn P.

I’m a christian teenager.. I lost my father this past October, and it felt like no one was there for me, even God. I felt the farthest away from God, and then a friend reminded me that he will never leave me nor forsake me. These bible verses help me. Thank you!


11 week old great nephew died last week. His father has been arraigned for causing his death. Your words are very inspiring as I am still at a loss at how this could have happened… my faith was shaken. Your words have calmed the angry storm of thoughts I had and reminded me of God’s presence and the blessings that surround me every day. It’s going to be a long journey as trials etc will keep reminding us what this baby endured… I’m going to keep your words ready and share them with those around me. In God’s Love…thank you.


I am so sorry about your daughter. I came across your site looking for some comfort through the Bible and found you. Thank you for your comfort. I lost for people very special to me this year one of them my godfather who was very young. He passed a week ago.

Carol Martin
Carol Martin

Thank you sharing the way you have dealt with your grief over Ellie. God Bless you and your wonderful memories of her. My 93 year old Mom just passed away and I am going to try to speak at her memorial Service and hopefully share my faith in Jesus Christ in a way that some of my family would turn to Him. I went on your website to get some prayer and sharing ideas and was touched by your story and hope you are comforted by all the people you are helping to comfort. God Bless you, Carol M.

William S.
William S.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your young daughter. Thank You so much for your word, prayers and scripture. I was OK for the last 7 months since my Son-in-Law Cedric was murdered in Cold Blood by his own Brother. Cedric was a good Man, loved my Daughter for nearly 25 years and were married for over 14 years. I miss him a lot and I am still grieving for him… I hate that he is gone, but some how knowing there was nothing any of could have to prevent his makes accepting it possible, not easily but I… Read more »

Lynne D.
Lynne D.

Dear Todd, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful little girl Ellie. No words can convey how heartbreakingly sorry I am for you. I lost my son almost two years ago. He was 44. Whether 44 or 6 they are still our babies. I still have terrible grief attacks but fewer and farther between. Thank you so much for all your advice. It really helped. God bless you.


Thank you so much for your prayer and bible verses I recently lost my sister and was search for bible verses about dealing with death and came accros your page. Thank you so much! Reading your page has enlightened me in so many ways. Im sorry for loss and pray that God will continue to comfort and strengthen you. You have definitely been a blessing to me during this time of great sorrow.

Tyler Bouslog
Tyler Bouslog

Thank you, I have had a tough few months. One of my closest friends from high school died of a heroin overdose in August, my dad who had battled several types of cancer over 12 years succumbed to the horrible disease in November and I lost a close friend, teacher, and mentor just two days ago. I try so hard to be strong but all I can do is think about what I could have and should have done. My heart breaks for my friends’ families and my own family. I miss my friends and my dad each and every… Read more »


I am a Christian woman ,whom lost her grandmother a year ago. I have felt the pain of loss,and was able to find healing through my relationship with The Lord. Recently twins in our church house ,an eighteen year old,and a husband have lost their wife,and mother. I have been moved with such compassion for them. I been praying ,seeking a way to help, there is also a young girl ,nine suffering a loss in a different way. I found myself sending numbers of encouragements, through phone texting. I have been doing so for a while. In the midst of… Read more »

Don P.
Don P.

I lost my son three days ago. I was searching for bible verses about death that would speak to me. I read your prayer and it did speak to me. I hope you will not mind if I include it at the end of an article I wrote about Jason. The article will be shared at his funeral and I might share it other places as well. Jason’s younger brother passed away over 6 years ago. So I understand your grief and your strength. I am in awe of your ability to write such a beautiful prayer. I believe you… Read more »


We lost our beautiful daughter 10 months and Im struggling along this difficult I do so
appreciate the meaningful prayer and bible verses may god be with you.


I enjoyed this very much as it brought me great comfort during my time of grieving. It has taught me to turn to God for direction as well as reminded me to embrace the lesson of not taking life for granted. Let me first start by expressing my condolences for your loss. Ellie is beautiful and is still speading her blessings upon this world. God is amazing in his creation and in his agape love for his children. I never realized how wonderful the realization of Gods everlasting love for us really is. I lost my father Herbert Jessie Wisdom… Read more »


Thank you for these beautiful scriptures. My cousin loss her father who was her best friend. I am trying to be strong for her but knowing she’s hurt, hurts me! These scriptures definitely help me!


I lost my mom a month ago and by looking on ur page I feel some piece of rest with the bible verses thank u

Alejandra Prieto
Alejandra Prieto

I lost my father not so long ago 2 years ago and it’s now 2016 and it still feels like yesterday but I have to admit this page really helped me alot. Thank you

Rodney Dempsey

My wife has just gone to an Alzheimer’s unit after 9 years with the disease. We have been married 51 years. Many of your comments are very helpful to me. You have done a wonderful thing in Ellie’s memory.

Karen N.
Karen N.

Being able to praise the Lord in our deepest darkest times.. gives glory to our Lord. It will also lift us up. I know where Ellie is and am praising Him . Strength and peace to you and your family. Blessings.


I’m so sorry for your loss. I loss my son 6 months ago and I’m still grieving. I try to take it one day at a time. It is not easy. But God is here comforting me and strengthen me. I know one day i will see him again that’s what keep me going. May God blessing be with you and your family.


Thank you for the beautiful prayer. I am not eloquent enough to pray this way on my own.


My dear friend’s husband died suddenly yesterday at age 61. He was a fireman who was a first responder after 911. The family is devastated and lost. I will share some of the Bible verses you posted with them and hope they will bring comfort and peace.


Thank you for your words of comfort. My friend lost her mother over the weekend.


Thank you for your words and the time you took to share these Scriptures with us. I am using many of them to encourage my friend who just experienced her third miscarriage. My heart aches for your loss of Ellie and her loss of another baby she can’t hold. My prayers are with each of you.

Victoria Tubbs

Reading this has been a true blessing to me. Thank you so much for letting God use you to help others who have lost loved ones. My child passed away 8 days ago. We just buried her yesterday. She was only 3 months old. Her name is Kennedi Simone Tubbs. God’s word says that we will see our loved ones again and I believe that I will see her again and be able to hold her again one day. Please keep helping people through your testimony and I will be sure to do the same thing. I know God has… Read more »

Marilyn Lehning

Thursday my 57 year old daughter went to her eternal rest, she left behind so many who loved her. Two beautiful daughters, husband, sisters, nephews, nieces, aunts, uncle, cousins. She gave us a selfless legacy, by not telling us she was dying with cancer, she lived her last days joyfully, reaching out to all who loved her. Hard on us, but I am thanking God for her. Husband knew, daughters thought she was healing. Praise God for all his blessings.


I lost my daugther 7 yrs old and other kids and i only suvivor the police tired chase the man he was robber somrwhere two guys.. we sit nice outside on step we sit there good time somehow the man out of contorl i was shocked freeze and killed exprole i was hold my breath my eyes was shut down cover my head i can feel tooo hot heater and glass hit on my body wind push over my head when thr heater stop i wake up and i turn look where my baby they gone on sit step i… Read more »

Ken McKinney
Ken McKinney

I gained strength to carry on after the loss of my wonderful wife and best friend of 58 years. Thank you from the bottom of my heart , for sharing this beautiful message.


I so much appreciate the words of inspiration and with God we will all excel. Keep the work going with the angels backing.

Marilyn Lehning

Thank you for this site.

Jacoby Gonzales

Thank you for this article and bible versus. I also have lost my daughter. It is nice having up lifting reminders from time to time to keep my faith strong. Thank you


I recently lost a nephew to a senseless homicide. At the funeral one of my best friends in life. Literally became sick and had to be rushed to the hospital. I was able to visit him the next day after my nephews home going service. And by the prompting of the Holy Spirit (thru my sister). I asked my friend if he knew Jesus as his Lord and Savior. Unable to speak because of a breathing mask. He nodded his head “yes”. But I asked him If we could just go to GOD in prayer to make that a certainty.… Read more »


I am so thankful that I have found this website i lost my mother a little over a year ago now and am ready to go forward in life with peace of mind and what I witness today on this page will most definitely be my start thank you


Thank you for these beautiful words, I will print them and give them to a couple that loss their 18 yr old son in a car accident. Please pray for them. Their names are Janet and Oscar. God bless!! Thanks again for this website!

Sheryl Simons

Thank you for these comforting thoughts. I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I recently lost my husband and can’t imagine a greater pain.


I have a hard time forgiving the night before my 30yr old daughter passed her boyfriend called me and something is wrong with your daughter he has done this to me for over a year my daughter texted me and said mom is he texting you I said yes she said ignore him He is an alcoholic and dealt drugs my daughter passed from pneumonia hear to find out the next day he told his cousin me and a friend she had shallow breathing I can’t forgive him why didn’t he tell me that I could of saved her he… Read more »


With all our hurt and all our sorrow may God Shine His Light on All of Us each and everyday MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL


Thank you so much for such a beautiful website. I just lost a beautiful spouse after 38 years of marriage due to complications from surgery. I am struggling to find my way right now and your site has comforted my soul. Thank you for your loving energy and willingness to share with others. I know that God has a plan for all of us, but that does not make the journey any easier.
Peace, my friend!


I lost my daughter in Jan this year, she would of been 50 and it has hit me pretty hard. Also recently I found out my dog, my beloved Payton is leaving me sooner than later as he has heart problems………both these have taken the life out of me and depression has set in big time…….not sure which way to turn anymore. Your words here are very helpful and I am very grateful to find you. I am so very sorry for your loss of one so young and full of life…..my deepest sympathies to you a father!

Daniel Wilks
Daniel Wilks

I am an evangelist called to share the message of God’s saving grace to the incarcerated. I never thought I would be called upon to preside over both my Nephew and my Nieces funerals in under a year. This site has helped me to find words I honestly didn’t have in me and I believe will help me to bring at least some comfort to my grieving family. Thank you so much. I am sorry for your loss. God bless you for sharing .


May God bless you. I just lost my mom – my world, on January 24, 2019, and am so broken. Your website provided great information. Be blessed.