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Here’s a short video that I came across and thought was worth sharing. It is hard to “connect” to pain and suffering, but it really is the only way to make a meaningful difference.

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Before losing our six-year-old Ellie, I had no idea what to say to someone that experienced loss. The fear of saying the wrong thing was paralyzing and very uncomfortable. I ran a poll in several groups that I belong to and asked “What are the best things someone could say to you as you grieve the loss of your loved one?” These were the top answers: I’m not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care. We all need help at times like this, I am here for you. ____ was such a wonderful person. My favorite memory of ____ is ____. Say nothing. Just be with the person. Here’s a couple of stories that relate to this topic. Ellie’s T-Ball Coach I was in line at a restaurant. The man behind me looked familiar, but he would not look my way. He was busy ordering and I considered just not engaging in any conversation. But, then there was a delay at the register, and I thought why not just go for it. I said, “weren’t you a T-ball coach?” He replied, “Yes, years ago”. I asked him about his kids and he informed me about his new twins and other kids. He asked me about my kids, and I told him I had three, two boys and a little girl in heaven. I said, “I think you were her T-ball coach”. Tears welled up in his eyes and I could see the pain in his […]

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