After losing our sweet little Ellie, we were in shock. Our friends and family had no experience with the tragedy we faced. The sudden loss of a young child doesn’t occur very often in any one place, so there were few people to talk to who had lived through something like this. When I was in the pit of my despair, several people reached out to me and let me know that I was not alone.

I needed to know that others had survived this. I wasn’t sure I could. I wasn’t sure my family could.

A kind gentleman called me and told me his story of losing his dear son in a tragic accident several years before. He listened to me and sat in my pain with me. He gave me the gift of hope that we could survive. He was a gift that I needed at the moment that he called.

One of my wife’s friends from high school also let us know that she was there for us. She had lost her son and husband recently and suffered terrible injuries as well. Her willingness to share in our pain, in the middle of hers, gave us hope too.

We receive many requests for connections to others with similar losses at Ellie’s Way. It’s been quite overwhelming.

So, we’ve created a group on Facebook where we can connect and share our stories. It’s a place where you can interact as much or little as you like.

Join our Ellie's Way Group!

Here’s what you will find in our group:

  • Encouragement and love!
  • Over 14,000 members and growing.
  • Question of the Day with many comments and discussion.
  • Remembering Special Days program for heavenly birthdays and angelversaries.
  • Daily caption contest
  • “Share Your Memories” events.

Feedback from Ellie’s Way Group Members

“I was at my wit’s end in my grief journey and didn’t think I’d survive much longer after losing my 24 year old daughter in a car accident along with her 25 year old boyfriend. I found Ellie’s Way after numerous searches for a grief group I’d feel welcome in. Ellie’s Way not only saved my life, but the genuine care and compassion shown by every member, with no judgments, is beyond measure. Best grief support I’ve ever received, as I no longer feel alone in my grief.”
– David Cordes

“When I lost my 18 year old son three years and nine months ago I was devastated. Ellie’s Way provided me with grief information that helped my husband and I tremendously. After the Facebook group was formed, I found an amazing group of people that know just what my grief journey is like. The love and support from strangers who have become friends helps me realize I can survive this terrible loss. This site provides spiritual comfort along with creative ideas to express my grief. It’s amazing.”
– Meg Shiffler

“I have had my ups and downs and this group has been my saving grace. Being able to come  here and reading about other people and how they are being uplifted and comforted. Supporting others has helped me with my grief. Knowing that there are others out there that totally get my craziness!”
– Shiela Weaver Cram

“We lost our precious son when he was just 3 months old to SIDS. I thought my life was over. I couldn’t believe that my precious beautiful baby was gone! It had to be a horrible mistake! But it wasn’t, he was gone. I was forever changed and still today grieve and cry for Jimmy. My next loss was my Daddy to cancer. Then my precious Mama to Parkinson’s! And 2 years later my only brother was murdered. I felt like I couldn’t go on. But I did because when I couldn’t walk, God carried me. Then almost 2 years ago my only sister passed away from a very aggressive cancer. I’ve lost many more loved ones, these are my closest. I actually found Ellie’s Way by accident on Facebook and decided to join. It has been such an amazing blessing for me! Many times I have felt like I was drowning in my grief on certain days, birthdays, the day I lost them, and there is always someone who deeply cares for me and reaches out to share this time with me, to help me get through it. Everyone genuinely cares about each other so deeply that I feel like I have gained another family. After I became a moderator which I was so honored to be, I began to reach out to more members myself. I’ve found that sharing kindness, compassion, concern and empathy for others has helped me to heal more than I would have ever realized. This amazing group is made of grieving people who have all endured the pain of loss and grief, yet we come together and comfort each other in ways that only we understand. Todd won’t accept the recognition he so deeply deserves but he has saved so many of us! Ellie’s Way is a blessing to everyone who belongs!”
– Karen Beasley

“God has guided me to the RIGHT places in His timing, throughout my life’s journey. I love Ellie’s Way. The love, support, and encouragement is quite amazing. Ellie’s Way was the perfect fit for me. I am SO grateful for the people here! May God bless each person. And, each hurting heart.”
– Marsha Lynn Hall

“When the darkest moments of my life were suffocating me, a friend of a friend guided me to a light. She told me about Ellie’s Way. I was hesitant to say the least because how could anyone know what I was going through. God led me to the light and to a place I could breathe again. If it weren’t for this group, I don’t know where I would have ended up. I found people who truly knew what I was as going through, as well as taking the time to get me through one day at a time. Thank you to everyone in Ellie’s Way. Your support makes life not so hopeless and the encouragement makes life livable again. God as Angels…Ellie’s Way!”
– Keilah Bee McDonald

“Finding Ellie’s Way has been my sanctuary since the death of my son, John, 2 years ago.
From the very beginning, I found outpouring of support, unconditional love, and understanding. When I feel stilted by the outside world including my family at times, I know Ellie’s Way will extend its welcome with open arms. I don’t think I could weather this never ending grief storm alone. THANK YOU ALL.”
– Naunnie Brick

“I am able to say how I’m feeling, talk about my loved ones, and not be judged. The support and love from the group is comforting.”
– Gina Morr Ritchie

“Ellie’s Way helps me thrive. I was on a grief journey that was dark, lonely, stressful, and hopeless. I found out about Ellie’s Way because someone shared the link to the group on their timeline. The death of my son, husband, and most recently my mom is something I only felt comfortable talking about with those who were already on a grief journey. Ellie’s Way has many beautiful souls that reach out in love and genuinely care. The posts are beautiful and helpful. The love and light that I have found at Ellie’s Way have helped me to set a goal of thriving and not just surviving my grief. Ellie’s Way has truly been a blessing, from Almighty God, in my life. I am so thankful that someone shared the link, to Ellie’s Way, when I needed hope, empathy, compassion, love, and light.”
– Barbara Lynn

“I found Ellie’s Way when it popped up on my Facebook feed and I wasn’t sure what to expect. I didn’t know what to do with myself after losing two of my boys three weeks apart. In this group I have built some beautiful friendships. This is the most amazing group of genuine loving and compassionate people. I honest to God don’t know what I would do without my Ellie’s Way family. Love, Sonja (Izzy and David’s momma)”
– Sonja Garcia

“I don’t remember how Ellie’s Way came to me but it was a blessing. My son was murdered, stabbed to death in 1995 at age 30. I have had years of counseling and group therapy. I’m no longer young but I am wise. Ellie’s Way helps me to stay whole, allows me to share what I have learned and is a great resource for unconditional love to exchange between members. None of us volunteered for this journey but each of us can learn from one another. How do we honor our loved one? By being Who We Are and doing simple things that remind us how very much THEIR life mattered. I’m grateful for Ellie’s Way and love knowing that Ellie’s life has affected thousands of people in such a positive way.”
– Ellen Babbitt Berna

“Ellie’s Way helps me as a grieving parent to feel understood. It feels good to hear from others that have similar feelings and situations. Ellie’s Way helps me feel as normal as I can after the gaping hole was put in my heart forever.”
– Leighea Johnson

“I only found this site a few years ago. My only 22 year old son died 30 years ago last June. I have been on this journey for a very long time. I have struggled until I finally realized that no matter how I felt, nothing was going to change! When I found Ellie’s Way I was absolutely shocked at the number of parents who have buried a child! I wish Ellie’s Way had been here 30 years ago! Thank you Todd, your family, and everyone who supports your cause! After all my years without my son, I realize I am not alone!”
– Nola Hasty

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Lois Hunter

Thank you for your story of ‘Sweet Ellie” . It was a touching story I lost my husband and I have good days and bad days. The memories are so hard on me. I realize they are a gift also.


hi lois


Hi Lois. First of all, I offer my condolences on your loss. At the request of my wife, of 36 yrs, I terminated her life in the hospital July of last year. My dog died following Hurricane Irma. My only son committed suicide last November at age 45. I only offer this because I understand loss of loved ones.


Thank you for sharing your story I am 26 years old and lost both my parents within 8 weeks my father was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and passed away this July my mother had multiple sclerosis and she passed away September both this year I saw my parents every day and had to quit my job being a nurse to move in with them and be a full-time caregiver as well as being a mother for my six-year-old son. I have been a wreck and just can’t seem to get out of this dark cloud

How heartbreaking it must have been for you to be the one to nurse both of your parents through their last days:( On the other hand I think of your parents and how comforting it must of been for them that their daughter was there for them in their last days rather than some stranger:) Often times husbands and wives go through the devastation of losing one another like the grieving wife who also posted on this thread. Though it was a double hit for you losing both parents so close together, your parents were spared that “grieving one another”… Read more »



I lost my mom when i was 5 years old and i am 18 years old now…. it still hurts to know that she never gets to see me grow up… or get to help me pick out my wedding dress… but i know she is an angel watching over her little girl…


I understand

Jesie Fernandez
Thank you so much for sharing your story…as I read it I couldn’t hold my tears. I lost my 22 year old son Sept 29th 2016, but I thought after a year of therapy and medication, I was going to feel better, but I don’t. If anything I feel worst, specially because he was murdered exactly 1 month before his 23rd Birthday. He had just gotten engaged 2 weeks prior and was planning to start his family. I was so happy for him and the girls he choose was the perfect one. I wake up every morning, sick, crying, and… Read more »

hi jesie


where do I begin

Tereasa Clay
Hi , my name is Tereasa and I lost my only child last year on 10/25/16 in a car accident. He wasn’t married and had no children of his own. last year was very hard but it seems this years Holidays are even worse, theres not a day goes by that I don’t think of him and miss him and wonder WHY. I have flash backs of getting THAT CALL from his dad and even though I didn’t witness or see the accident I picture him in pain before he went cause it wasn’t instant, he was trapped but talking.… Read more »

I lost my daughter at 30yrs old in 2016 she left me with two beautiful grandchildren she was beautiful inside and out she was going to start college the following month for nursing I’m having a hard time i would love to join your group my name is Wanda she passed from pneumonia I lost my niece 6months before her on same date same day from car accident MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL

Spring sanders

Hi, my name is spring. I’m looking for some support for some difficult things going on in my life. In the last 10 months I’ve lost 3 family members, my grandmother last May, my uncle just before Christmas and the beginning of February my dad passed away. I’ve been trying so hard to come to grips with everything and feel like I’m in a losing battle. I’m really hoping someone in this group can help me with what I’m feeling.

Nicci Baierlein

a year has passed since I lost my husband, he died in Texas alone while I was in Tennessee helping out one of our children. It was my worst case happening and now it has come to past. Ellie’s story touched my heart and I am just lost without my rock, he took care of me after brain surgery and I can’t believe he is now gone, why did I survive just to have this to deal with him being gone. I don’t know how to grieve, I seem to just exist.