One Last Moment with My Little Girl

By Kirk Spencer
As our final day in Children’s Hospital unfolded, one of the nurses asked if I wanted to hold my little girl. Of course, I immediately replied, “Yes.”

This would be the first time in months I was going to be able to touch my youngest child, and it would probably be the last. I took my turn in that rocking chair that was next to her bed after my wife stood up. Two nurses carefully took Lindsay from her and laid her in my lap. The transfer was a little clumsy. While many of IV’s and tubes had been removed, some things were still hooked up to her and had to come along.


I looked down at my little girl, but her eyes had long since closed, so I guess she couldn’t see me back. I tried to soothe her as best I could, or maybe I was trying to soothe myself. I thought I might sing to her the little song I sang so many times to my other two young ones at bedtime.

When Shawn and Brooke first came along, I wanted to put them to bed by singing them a soft song. The problem was I had never learned any lullabies. So, I made one up! I grabbed one of my favorite rock n’ roll songs and changed it a little to resemble some sort of lullaby. The song I chose is from my favorite singer/songwriter, Bob Seger. I grew up in the suburbs of Detroit, so the music of Bob Seger helped shape my life ever since I was a teenager. That simple lullaby I made up was from his song Beautiful Loser. I knew it by heart, inside and out. As I held my youngest child for the last time, I really couldn’t think of anything more important to leave with her, and I wasn’t sure how long she would remain in my arms.

Although I desperately wanted to, I couldn’t get the words to come. In fact, I couldn’t get any sound to come out during those last few moments we shared. The only things that seemed to sneak out were some quiet tears. I had really hoped I could somehow sing her to sleep one final time. But, it wasn’t meant to be - not today.

As one of the nurses took her from me and laid her back on those very white sheets on that large hospital bed, I realized my little girl was going to have to move to her new home without her dad telling her how much he loved her the best way he knew how.

That damn heart monitor across the bed kept reminding me of how fast she was slipping away. My last memory of Lindsay would be full of tired tears, helplessness, and hopelessness. Suddenly, I wasn’t in the way again.

My four-month argument with God was coming to an end. The arrangement I thought we had, suddenly reached a conclusion I couldn’t accept. “I mean, I held up my part of the bargain.”

Apparently, I didn’t get to make up the rules. Sadness and anger began to fill my empty heart, but this ongoing discussion would have to wait. Grasping the severity of the situation, I quickly realized my wife needed me more than ever before. Oh, I wasn’t a hero. No, I just found it easier to help those around me and force my confusion down deep inside.

I guess it was time for this father to turn over the care of his daughter to another Father that would never be in the way…ever.
Kirk Spencer is a first-time writer telling his story 35 years after his family lost their youngest child to heart disease.  Retired from +40 years in the grocery industry starting as a bagger at a store and working his way up to Vice-President of a national sales and marketing company servicing one of the largest grocery retailers in the United States.

He and his wife have been married for 42 years, have two grown children, and seven grandkids.  While he was born and raised in Michigan, the rest of his family remain diehard Ohio State Buckeye fans.

He enjoys playing golf, writing, cooking, and whatever sports activity his grandkids have that day… lacrosse, basketball, and girls’ softball mostly.

Visit Kirk's website for more information about his book!
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